Father Of Attitudinal Healing
The original Center for Attitudinal Healing (CAH) was founded by the father of Attitudinal Healing, Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D. and friends in 1975 in Tiburon, California, north of San Francisco Bay. Jerry realized that there needed to be a safe place for kids to be able to honestly discuss their own questions, fears, and thoughts. Attitudinal Healing allows us to correct our misperceptions and to remove the inner obstacles to peace. This begins at life, and at death; to have peace of mind as our only goal; and to make forgiveness our primary function. It is discovering the effect that holding on to our grievances, blaming others, and condemning ourselves has, so that we can choose to no longer find value in them.
At the heart of Attitudinal Healing is the belief in the extraordinary ability of ordinary people to be of help to one another, and the idea that we have the power to choose our attitude in any given moment, regardless of circumstances. It is the realization that, ultimately, it is neither circumstances nor people in the past that are causing us to be upset in the moment. Rather, it is our own thoughts, attitudes, and judgments about those things that cause us the distress. Attitudinal Healing is about healing our own minds and hearts to have harmony and integrity in all that we think, say, and do active ingredients for resolving conflict and bringing about peace of mind. Health is defined as inner peace and Healing is the letting go of fear.
Attitudinal healing can help in the following areas of functioning:
Spirit: Attitudinal Healing get people in touch with the knowledge that they are not just their bodies; that no matter how ill their bodies are on the outside, they are always whole inside.
Body: Attitudinal Healing helps people shift their thinking that contributes to suffering. Pain may still be there, but the child is relieved of the anxiety they felt about it.
Mind: Attitudinal Healing helps a person make a mental shift to focus on the whole of life, not just the fragments of the body or parts of their life that are falling apart.
Emotions: Attitudinal Healing emphasizes that there are no right or wrong emotions. People can stop holding their emotions in, out of fear of expressing them. Instead they have a safe place in which to express and discuss their emotions and realize they’re not the only ones to have such feelings.
Social: Because Attitudinal Healing usually happens in groups, children learn about taking turns, listening, asking questions, and about compassion.
Building good character is all about addition, not subtraction. What I mean is this: when it comes to change, our focus is usually on the aspects of our lives that are bad. We try to cut out or cut off these negative or bad qualities. We try to improve by subtraction. That is not how you build good character. It is the process of addition in your life that brings the character. In so doing, you automatically take care of the other negative aspects.
But how do you add these things? First, let’s look at what character is. Character is the subconscious doing of right. When doing things that you ought to do is instinctive and part of you then that is good character. When you show up on time out of habit that is good character. When you’re honest by reflex that is good character. When you can force yourself to be patient instinctively that is good character. When something wrong or bad is done habitually we call those bad habits. Doing things good or right out of habit is called good character.
Attitudinal Healing is based on the belief that it is not people or external situations that cause us to be upset. Rather, what causes us conflict and distress is our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes about people and events.
Jerry Jampolsky has suggested 12 principles of attitudinal healing that are universally accepted and highly effective. We are also following the same principles for utilizing attitudinal healing in the treatment process in Pakistan. True understanding of these principles can make readers get a full comprehension to changing attitudes. Let’s discuss these attitudinal healing rules one by one.
- The essence of being is love
- Health is inner peace
- Giving and receiving are the same
- We can let go of the past and the future
- Now is the only time there is and each instance is for giving
- We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than judging
- We can become love finders rather than fault finders
- We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside regardless of what is
- We are students and teachers to each other
- We can focus on the whole of life rather than the fragments
- Since love is eternal, death needs not to be viewed as fearful
- We can always perceive others as either extending love or as fearful, giving a call for help
These Principles are utilized as extraordinary tools to be able to use in dealing with relationships. If we can keep this in mind as we interact with others, we will be able to mold our interactions in a more desirable way. When we are in a relationship with another person and it is clear that they are extending their love to us, there is usually never any problem. We can receive the feeling of love and support and respond with our love and support. We feel no conflict and things seem to readily get resolved.
We are responsible for our own peace of mind and not that of another person. It may mean that as we listen to the words as they are being spoken to us, we focus on this Principle as what may appear as an attack is actually an expression of fear and a call for help. When we do this, another dynamic begins to happen. As we become defenseless in the moment there is a shift in the energy and “the attacker” will feel it. He or she will not continue on with the same sense of urgency with which they began, because our shift in perception will create a space that will enable a new dynamic to occur. This new dynamic will change the pattern and the quality of our relationships.